Pros and Cons of Eloping

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Now that you’re engaged, the real fun of planning your wedding can begin.


While some people dream of getting married in an epic ceremony with a white dress and hundreds of guests, more and more couples are choosing an alternative way to tie the knot – eloping. Not sure which direction is right for you and your partner? Consider these pros and cons of eloping:


Pros of Eloping


Eloping can be a cheaper wedding alternative.

Wedding receptions can get really expensive, really fast. That’s just how it works when you have to buy meals for 200+ relatives and friends. Eloping can help you save quite a bit of cash by cutting down on costs of locations, decorations, other party rentals, and food. You can then use the money you save on an incredible honeymoon, down payment on a house, or whatever else you and your partner decide.


Eloping can give you more flexible venue options.

When you elope, you can get married just about anywhere. From a courthouse to a mountain top to a backyard or even a bowling alley, the options are limitless. Just as long as your officiant and witnesses are there, you can exchange vows wherever your hearts desire.


Eloping can allow for endless creative wedding opportunities.

You get to ditch the standard “I do” formula and do something different when you elope. You can get married while on vacation at sunset, tie the knot between innings at your favorite team’s game, recite your vows on the exact street corner where you first met…you get the idea. Your wedding will become just as personal as your relationship, and something the two of you will always remember.


Cons of Eloping


Eloping can limit your guest list.

Having an extremely small guest list can mean that some family members and friends will be left out. Most elopements don’t include that second cousin you have only met once, or the childhood friend you fell out of contact with after high school. Those people may be hurt when they see your celebratory pictures on social media, but at the end of the day, your marriage is about you and your partner. You can also always have a big party later on, if you really want to include everyone.


Eloping can make you feel like you’re missing out on important traditions.

When deciding to elope or not, you have to remember that your micro wedding won’t feel the same as the grand occasions other people are having. If a walk down the aisle with your parents or a first dance is important to you, you can find a way to include it in your elopement, otherwise, you’ll have to make peace with the idea of trading in a few of the standard traditions for a more personal wedding.


Eloping can result in less attention surrounding your big day.

If you elope, there will be a lot less fanfare and fuss around your wedding day. If you’re someone who likes that attention and encouragement, your ceremony may feel lackluster. However, if you prefer to stay out of the spotlight, this could be a positive thing. Eloping could also mean that you’ll receive less gifts, but who needs three toasters anyway?


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